The women you think of as docile housewives weren’t living in some natural state of bliss. They were surviving. Women pretended to comply because survival meant attaching yourself to a man if you wanted food and a roof over your head. That’s not love of submission. That’s necessity.
What’s really happening now is that women can, if they choose, live completely independent of men. The image of the “good woman” who loved to serve was always a lie. And when the mask comes off, what gets exposed is not a decline in dating culture, but the truth that was there all along.
Men are rattled because they assumed we enjoyed taking orders, “resting in our femininity,” even when we were smarter, more skilled, more educated, and more organized. They assumed our docility was genuine. Now they’re realizing it wasn’t, and they are not handling it well.
We never liked being treated like children, which is exactly how patriarchy treats women. We never enjoyed a world where our labor and choices were defined by men’s entitlement. And the men who cling to the fantasy that women love nothing more than cooking, serving, and popping out babies? They clearly haven’t had a real conversation with a woman. Not their partner, not their mother, not even their grandmother.
Nothing has “gone wrong” with modern dating culture. The only thing that’s changed is that men are finally seeing who women really are.
